If you trust someone you think they are reliable, you have confidence in them and you feel safe with them physically and emotionally. Trust is something that two people in a relationship can build together when they decide to treat each other carefully and respectfully. Lowise Conversations are confidential, they are about your needs, goals and values.
Trust is difficult when you have experienced traumatic events, since your trust either in a person, an organization or in life generally gets broken. When things happen too soon, too fast and too much, the brain gets overwhelmed, and cannot store the experience as a normal whole memory. Instead parts of the memory end up in different places, and they often get connected to random elements of the experience (like the pattern of the wallpaper or the smell in the room). The younger you are, the more you will explain the events in a way that do only describe parts of the situation, see the event as your fault and feel ashamed of yourself.
Healing from trauma happens when you get aware of your strengths and resources, when you understand who was responsible, when you start nurturing yourself, and when you learn to tolerate and regulate your emotions.
Memories will always change when you recall them – they get connected to whatever is happening in the recalling situation. This process is called memory reconsolidation. So, when you recall small elements of the traumatic experience while, at the same time, adding elements of calmness or pleasurable sensations, the emotional impact of the memory will change. Other methods used in Lowise conversations for working med trauma include narrative elements, body work, creativity and challenging beliefs connected to the traumatic situation.